Hello, Chosen One! So your best friend is getting married and you have been chosen as her bridesmaid? What a great honour! From being her ultimate partner in crime to now being her bridesmaid, you girl have come a long way. Surely, it must be getting difficult for you to contain your excitement. It’s not every day that you get to play this special role for your loved one. As exciting as it may sound, the responsibility that you’ve been entrusted with cannot be taken lightly. She has placed her trust in you for her big day, and you want to live up to her expectations. And you will. All you need to do is to contemplate a few important aspects that are pivotal concerning the role you’re about to play. Consider these points that will help you navigate through this role profoundly.

The Wedding Dress
If you were to step into the bride’s shoes, what is that one thing that you’d be stressed
about the most? Well, for me, it would be to find the perfect wedding dress. A lot goes into finalising the wedding dress – exploring numerous stores, long hours of trial, constant visits for fittings, and whatnot. Your role here is to provide honest feedback and suggestions as she tries on different looks. Your views may not always be in alignment with hers, and that’s perfectly normal. What matters is that you are supportive of her choices, and that’s what your friend expects of you.

A checklist to the rescue
Preparing a wedding checklist always comes in handy. Sit down with your friend and prepare a comprehensive checklist after a detailed discussion. It really helps you in staying organised and makes sure that you do not miss out on anything. The sooner you prepare it, the better it is as it will pan out everything that needs to be done and streamline the process. This way, you can focus on tasks in a hassle-free manner.

Be a Good Listener
You might be the more talkative and chatty one between the two of you but now is the time to put your talks to rest and be a good listener. Be all ears whenever she is doing the talking. In case of any instructions given, make sure to jot it down carefully. There’s no denying the fact that marriages are quite stressful. There are innumerable things to be taken care of. All these things can take a toll on her and cause her to be irritable and frustrated. So when time comes that she wants to vent out her frustration or wants to crib about anyone or anything, you need to hear her out with no judgements at all.

Emergency Kit
I cannot emphasise enough the importance of an emergency kit. Amidst all the chaos, any unwanted situation might arise for the bride, and you must pull her out of that situation. Amongst other things, here are a few things that ought to be in the kit – a sewing kit, safety pins, bobby pins, band-aids, fashion tape, first aid kit, painkillers, tampons/sanitary napkins.

Bathroom buddy
Just when you thought you couldn’t encroach into each other’s personal space any further, here’s the last stop. It’s time to level up and be bathroom buddies. Considering those weighty and voluminous bridal outfits that are to be worn throughout the day, your friend will need help whenever she needs to go to the loo. So you’re in for full-time bathroom duty.

Connect with the planner
Wedding planners are known to provide a top-notch wedding experience, considering the
expertise and knowledge they possess. In case such a service has been hired, it is your job to bridge the gap between the planner’s wedding vision as well as the bride’s wedding vision. And for that, you need to be in constant touch with the planners to make sure that your friend’s vision and desires for her wedding are well executed and translated into reality.

The Much Needed Emotional Support
Being a bride is an emotional ride. There are so many emotions to deal with during this
entire process. One moment, she is happy and glowing with all the love that’s pouring in for her. Yet another moment, she is miserable just with the thought of having to leave
everything behind and embarking on a new journey in life. Whilst she is bursting with a
volcano of emotions, it is your job to comfort her and be her biggest supporter.

The Bridal Shower
In today’s time, it’s common for the bridesmaid to organise a bridal shower, which is basically an intimate party held for the bride-to-be to make her feel special by pampering her with gifts and of course, love. However, holding a bridal shower can be an expensive affair. Feel no shame in communicating this to the bride’s mother or sister and letting them help you with the expenses. A bridal shower can be held in the most simplest of ways or in a luxurious manner. It all boils down to the budget that can be allocated for this event.

A Spa Day
How about some more pampering for the bride-to-be? Go ahead and book a spa session for her. It will help in relieving the stress and will also give her the much needed break from the wedding planning.

Your Presence Matters
Now that you have landed upon this role, consider this as your motto for the next few days – To be there on time and to be there for her all the time. Your best friend is totally dependent on you for a lot many things during her wedding festivities. Make sure you are always on time and readily available for her whenever she needs you. Remember, your presence is indispensable.

The Bridesmaid Speech
They say actions speak louder than words. But here comes an exception, for this is the time where words would matter the most. The key to a perfect bridesmaid speech is to speak from your heart. Not all are good at an impromptu speech, hence, it’s best if you prepare for it beforehand. Share your core childhood memories or a few funny incidents. Express your love for your best friend wholeheartedly. If you’ve succeeded in making the bride emotional and shed a tear of happiness or so, maybe, then – Bravo! You did well.